Lucknow: Mostly all of us at some point of our lives meet someone so special that we get confused if we have met our soulmate or just a mate. We love talking to and about that person, can’t stop thinking about them, always look forward to meet them and when we finally seal a date we put so much effort dressing up. But with all these feelings and efforts if you still fail to read the signs exhibited by the other person, believe me nothing can beat that heartache.
No matter how old your are, all of us often fail to differentiate if we are in love or its just an attraction. So, before self-declaring your love and crying yourself to sleep because your so-called love isn’t paying attention to you, here are a few ways that will help you find out if it’s love or simply attraction and save you from the unnecessary hassle.
Love, at first sight, is a myth While some of you might disagree on this, the reality is that there’s nothing called love at first sight because most of the time, it’s simply attraction. See it this way. What’s the first thing you see in a person? It has to be looks and that surely can’t be your criterion for falling in love. So, most of the time when you see a person and your heart starts racing, it’s attraction. Love takes time to build and you can’t consider a feeling that you get just by seeing a person for once as love.
Love is a synonym to care If the other person’s miseries don’t bother you but you like being around them, it goes without saying it’s nothing but attraction. Love calls for care and if the latter is missing, there are no chances you are in love with that person no matter how many flawless explanations you have to offer. Sometimes, a lot of people develop fake care just to prove themselves they are in love, this is another red flag. Care and love both come from within and if you have to pretend to have any one of the feelings, sorry to break it to you but it’s just attraction.
You miss them only when alone If you are out with your friends and thought of your special person doesn’t cross your mind even for once and it’s only when you return to an empty house after a long day that you miss them, it’s a clear indication of attraction. Love doesn’t see time or place. If you love a person, he or she is on your mind most of the time, if not all. If you find yourself thinking about a person only when alone or when you are bored, you should give your feelings a second thought before calling it, love.